Updated: Dec 30, 2020
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Remember that ejaculation is a learned behaviour; only you can treat yourself. Treatment doesn’t work like magic; it’ll definitely cause doubling of time, but to increase time beyond that, you need to do the handwork. The purpose of all treatment is to induce an increase in ejaculation time, and once your brain learns to last longer, which takes about 6-8 months, you can gradually start having sex without any drugs or surgery.
Dos At Home
Eat Healthy: Studies have shown that men and women who are mostly vegetarian have more endurance and last much longer in bed than non-vegetarians. They have more stamina due to the nutrients they are getting from a healthy diet of fruits and veggies. Particularly sex-friendly fruits include bananas, strawberries and amla.
Exercise: Exercise improves blood flow in general, and that includes your penis! Certain yoga asanas like the cobra pose can help, as can “Kegels”. Kegels exercises help to build up the muscles in your pelvic floor to help you have better control. How do you find these muscles?
Pretend you are trying to avoid passing gas.
While urinating, try to stop your urine stream.
If you've identified the right muscles, you'll feel the contraction more in the back of the pelvic area than the front.
Choose your position. Start by lying on your back until you get the feel of contracting the pelvic floor muscles. When you have the hang of it, practice while sitting and standing.
Contract and Relax
Contract your pelvic floor muscles for 3 to 5 seconds.
Relax for 3 to 5 seconds.
Repeat the contract/relax cycle 10 times.
Keep other muscles relaxed. Don't contract your abdominal, leg, or buttock muscles, or lift your pelvis.
Place a hand gently on your belly to detect unwanted abdominal action.
Extend the time. Gradually increase the length of contractions and relaxations. Work your way up to 10-second contractions and relaxations
Aim high. Try to do at least 30 to 40 Kegel exercises every day. Spreading them throughout the day is better than doing them all at once. Diversify. Practice short, 2 to 3 second contractions and releases (sometimes called "quick flicks") as well as longer ones.
3. Pay Attention To Your Body: One of the most common ways to keep yourself from ejaculating too soon is to monitor your excitement, and then, before you orgasm, stop all stimulation until you’ve got yourself under control again. This is called the “stop start technique”. In this method your partner stimulates your penis until just before ejaculation. Your partner then stops until the urge to climax lets up. As you regain control, you ask your partner to start stimulating your penis again. This process is repeated 3 times. You ejaculate on the fourth time. You repeat this method 3 times a week with your partner until you have gained more control.
4. The Squeeze Technique: When you’re about to orgasm, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis for 15-20 seconds. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.
5. Use Desensitisers: Applying a topical spray to your penis can lessen sensation and help you gain control of ejaculation. Desensitisers come in the form of sprays and creams. These creams/sprays are put on the head of the penis about 20 to 30 minutes before sex. If you leave the numbing cream/spray on your penis for longer than suggested, your erection may go away. Also, the numbing cream/spray should not be left on the exposed penis during vaginal sex because it may cause vaginal numbness. Wash the cream off your penis 5 to 10 minutes before sex.